Selfcare, Healing & Redemption

I placed the car in park and wiped back tears, for what seemed like the hundredth time in the past few days. The weight of all the data, or lack of data I had consumed weighed me down, life had gotten so heavy. We all have angels, and sometimes seek them in the most unsuspecting people. I finished the last of my wine, and spent the next hour chatting mine that night.

Luckily I’d renegotiated my life that night, I’d told myself I’d wake up feeling better the next day, perhaps with more energy to continue fighting.

When I felt calmer more subdued, I buckled up and made the journey home leaving the Puente de Las Americas. Blurry, I focused my eyes making an attempt to stay in between the lines, morbidly with the desire to get home safe, this time alive.

A few times this year, I could have thrown myself off a bridge or out of a 16 floor window.

I had received a hard lesson here in my thirties this past year. One could debate the nature of it and why it occurred over and over but more than anything it was MY lesson. Karma, that I’d be strong enough to correct in this lifetime.

I experienced burn out, marital problems and crisis of identity. Not to mention breaking my ankle, muscle atrophy and recovery.

I indeed went through a pocket of depression as well.

I quit my job, I went into debt and I loved myself back to health.

A cup of Rioja and a spliff, had become familiar companions for my anxiety and excitement during my deep immersions & research into what experts were saying about family/marriage, transgressions, womanhood, motherhood, selfcare, and feminine spirituality.

Today, I’m a little lighter. A little more free-er. A hella of lot more filled with gratitude.

Listed are my top 3 books from from 2019:

“The Code of the Extraordinary Mind” by Vishen Lakhiani

“The State of Affairs” & “Mating in Captivity” including all PodCasts by Esther Perel

“The Courage to be Disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi

Among the literature, were podcasts, youtube videos tons of yoga and meditation. I later sought help with a professional who would also provide insight and support. Beyonce Knowles provided hours and hours of soundtrack that breathed vocabulary and and humanized situations that otherwise seemed unexplainable. I will forever be grateful for her art.

Mental health & selfcare is real. Taking care of your friends and family is even realer. If you know anyone suffering, reach out and say something. Things have changed and there are access to counselors, or psychologists online via app and it’s even easier to get the help you need than before. I’m thankful for the friends and family who continue to support me.

20 Minute Vegan Chocolate Chip Cookies

No lie, it’s true.

You should have all these ingredients on hand, so if you preheat your oven to 325 now, you should be done with these cookies before you read this post twice. (I used the 5/6 dial setting)

PREP TIME 5-10 mins COOK TIME 11 minutes

Servings:  12-14 (cookies) Category: Dessert Snack, Vegan


  • 1 cup of whole wheat flour- use whichever you have
  • 1/2 cup of sugar, sometimes I use more, sometimes I use less
  • 1/2 tsp baking soda
  • 1/4 tsp of salt
  • 1/3 cup of vegan chocolate chips, sometimes I use more, sometimes I use less (ENJOY LIFE brand)
  • 2-3 tbsp of hemp milk, use what you have!
  • 2 tbsp of oil, coconut or sunflower
  • 1 tsp of vanilla extract, don’t worry somedays you have it somedays you don’t


  1. Measure out all ingredients
  2. Dump it into one bowl
  3. Use a spatula to mix, then hands
  4. Determine if it needs less or more milk, needs to have a nice consistency
  5. Scoop using a tbsp onto a baking sheet, I use a pizza stone un- lined, it’s been accumulating grease for god knows how long….
  6. Bake for 11 mins @325 depending on your oven. Be careful when moving to a cooling rack they will be a little soft, use a spatula.
  7. No need to wait, they will magically disappear in 15 minutes, just enough time for you to realize you should have doubled the recipe, or enough time to get started on the 2nd batch.
Raid your kitchen to find these ingredients
NO “2 bowling” – just mix it, no fuss
Don’t be afraid to use your hands, I’m not. 🙂
Perfect scooper for small children
leg game strong
Ta-Dum – Perfection! Eat up and comment!

For Jocelyn! Otherwise I would have kept procrastinating…

Enjoy these cookies for any occasion and love your babies/fur-babies or mates.

P.S. My husband says each bite is like the first. Let me know if you agree!

10 Things Short Haired Girls Know

A fun descriptive about Women and their hair journeys, yes….even….me.

Protection, warmth, sensory function: hair has evolved more for social purposes and or religious beliefs. Hair also can be symbolic of life changes or transitions as seen in “Napily Ever After”. However we we wear our hair, the way in which we wear our hair tells a story about what we’ve seen and who we chose to be.

My life with short hair has been short lived. Done with much thought and intention, I move on to the next chapter of my life Regrowth.

I’d like to commemorate this stage of my life by detailing some scientific findings that every short hair knows. Obviously it’s not scientific …duh. But still… fun.

#1. No umbrella? No problem. Rain or shine, ready to run in the sun or dance in muddy puddles. A short haired girl doesn’t worry about the weather. They aren’t worried about their blower, or concerned with frizz. They are always ready to go and unstoppable.

#2. Brush in hand? Blowdryer? I think not. Fresh fruit and strong coffee are always within arms reach of a short haired girl. You see… because they aren’t chained to a salon chair or preplanning hair appointments, short haired girls have time to research topics that are good for them and that fructose is made in the brain and fueled by fruit, and before they start any day… coffee please #bae.

#3. What’s behind the curtain? Hidden behind the “locks”, “face framing” are not luxuries for a short haired girl. Clear as day before anything else- you will see the long necklines, elongated jaws and even the funny shaped ears FIRST. The point is short haired girls know they can’t hide behind any beautiful styling. Their appeal will come from who they are and what they say and do, rather what they may or may not look like.

#4. When bosses are in town or an important meeting scheduled, they understand the time and effort needed to tend and “fix” long locks of hair. Short haired girls understand the sacrifices made on haircare. Knowing this, they too mourn the loss of cutting theirs. In spite of this, they honor this “time back” and reinvest it into focusing on other areas of their life. For starters their hearts, minds, friends and families.

#5. Having resigned from endless hours of treatment spent on hair, short haired girls are on the lower spectrum of the vanity scale. They live deeply. Ok, this is a lie. I’m sure there are some shitty short haired girls out there, but I don’t know any of them and they aren’t worth mentioning. Equally so, I know many long haired girls who aren’t vain and comparably deep. 🙂

#6. Statement earrings, and headbands. Shorthair girls know the value of accessorizing. Day look to night in seconds. Take that #vogue.

#7. Because time is money and money is time- you should spend it on things that feed your soul little mama. Short haired girls save money on hair products, and even less shampoo. All of which can be redirected to more important things in life, for example: Avocados. Those sure do feed my soul. #plantlife.

#8. Plowing the field, sowing the seeds, tending the weeds, new growth, harvest and clearing the field. Short haired girls understand patience and lifecycles. There are no magical watches. With every end is a beginning, and every beginning an end. Short haired girls understand time and GROWTH. Find a path, invest in your goddamn selves and work the fucking field. Tend and mend your goddamn land. Put the work in. There are no shortcuts. You cannot cut the line Becky.

#9. Shorthaired girls are brave. They know what it’s like to be naked in public. They see long beautiful hair and sometimes miss theirs. Long haired women see short hair and sometimes wonder, what it’s like. Short hair girls take the plunge and know forever. Then are changed for life… (even if they grow it out again). Short hair girls understand the lessons, and accept them head on.

#10. Last but not least. Hair Grows Back. I repeat HAIR GROWS BACK. Genetics & culture can influence the hair you wear. However there are tints and dyes, treatments and styles. You can have it anyway you want. Platinum blonde, ruby red, pixie or californian balayage. Short haired girls know the power of hair and how they can flex and exercise that strength by not having any at all. So you better go call becky with the good hair.

“Short haired girls know the power of hair and how they can flex and exercise that strength by not having any at all.”

Crystal Hair de Hermoso-

Pinkberry Nice Cream

Ok, so there is no such thing as Pinkberries.

But there should be according to this recipe.

I won’t comment much on the last 72 hours of my life, let alone the last year but I will serve you up a nice cool treat you can enjoy in this heat. (Sorry if you’re in another part of the world that is currently enjoying winter, don’t mind me; keep enjoying).

So what have I been doing for the past year?

Working, traveling, breaking immigration laws, mothering. All the fun stuff. Life isn’t as  easy as March 2018, but it’s still adventurous and there is still value in the complications. Lucky for me, I can fall back on Nice Cream to temporarily soothe my aches and pains.

Here goes:

3-4 Small frozen organic bananas

1-2 hand fulls of frozen organic blueberries

Blend all of that in your hand dandy food processor 

Toppings you could choose:

  • ground flax
  • muesli
  • dates

Or do use whatever you have… more importantly just improvise, and just enjoy yourself.

Above all consider the following:

That Ben & Jerry’s ice cream contains 19 g of fat in a single half-cup serving, and 10 g of that is saturated (the “bad” kind, which raises our levels of LDL cholesterol). The American Heart Association recommends we limit our fat levels and cut back on saturated fat, making sure it doesn’t exceed more than 5 to 6 percent of our total calories—that’s about 16 g of saturated fat daily for someone on a 2,000-calorie diet. So one serving of our chosen sample exceeds that total.”

Choose cruelty free, nutrient dense nice cream next time.









Apple Pie Pancakes

I have a post for you today friends. What better way to return than with a post for “Pancake Sunday”.

I have been under the weather, a smooth way of saying Laryngitis. For those of you who may know me in real life, taking a round of antibiotics is something I’d do everything to prevent. I’m the one who usually reaches for a ton of tea, and garlic based ““oxymels” .  But I just couldn’t. I caved. Blame it on the fever, or body-aches, but this granola mom was getting her Z-pack, end of story. Fast forward 14 days later and here I am.

Getting sick is such a downer for me. It literally throws the proverbial wrench into my system. Hence the lack of interest in just about everything.  But here I am, crawling out of my trench. Showing up. Because all you have to do is keep showing up.

So much has happened…

  • The Boston Maraton was won by a normal everyday Nurse. 
  • Korea has agreed to disarm (both sides)

Let’s not forget.


  • My son hates my haircut

Ok enough joshing around, let’s get this party started.

Here’s the recipe for those Applepie Pancakes:

Prep time:  15
Total time: 30 mins
Serves: Family of 5 (little ones on deck)
Ingredients &
Do this first 

Make your flax egg here. Add  

  • 1 1/2 cup of plant based milk.

Your wet bowl is done. 

Start a different bowl for this

  • 1/2 cup of organic flour
  • 1/2 cup of stone ground wheat
  • 2 tbsp of baking powder
  • 3 tbsp of coconut sugar
  • 1 tbsp of hemp seeds

If you sift, sift now. Then combine with your wet bowl. 

Laddle your batter onto a griddle, and cook just a couple minutes on each side. The trick here is to make sure you have a nice evenly hot griddle. Hot enough to make spongy pancakes, but not too hot it burns before it evenly cooks. You will end up with thin af pancakes should said griddle not be hot enough. Good luck!

Simultaneously, you can make your applepie compote.

  • 2 granny smith apples peeled, cored and cubed
  • 1 tbsp of smart balance butter
  • 1 tsp of cocosugar
  • Shakes of cinnamon

Saute in pan, till tender. 

Serve liberally atop a pile of your fresh pancakes y viola – killing that apple pie craving at breakfast. Pancakes are life.









Papaya Boats

I’m trying to detox from all the overindulging and snacking I partook in over the holiday weekend.  I know its bad when my body starts craving sugar, and unhealthy foods. Although we were able to keep it pretty good, all the cooked food, and less all the nutrient dense stuff  has this girl feeling without energy. I’m going to focus on greens and insert Papaya Boats.

Apparently this is something the Hawaiians having been keen to for a while, and I’m just now getting to in my 32 years of living.

Some people are into papaya some people aren’t. Yes there is a smell but like all things good for you, you learn to look pass the factors you don’t like. Insert Limon!

If you’re not a fan of papaya, give it a squeeze of limon, (lime) and get over yourself.

What has been called the “fruit of angels” by Christopher Columbus, papaya is so good for you and has been known to aid in digestion and promote wellness and weight-loss. I eat it when I’m hungry and want a juicy treat.

These are super easy to make and you can even set up a buffet for the kids.

Include toppings like:

  • Walnuts
  • Granola
  • Coconut
  • Chia Seeds
  • Hemp Seeds
  • Berries
  • Bananas
  • Vegan yogurts if you wish
  • Drizzles of Agave

Whatever you want, just do it. Put down the donut and get yourself something nourishing that you know is going to be impactful to you health.

Cacao Maca Latte

If you’re like me with a busy life, often times you forget your coffee because you’re pulled away in different directions (literally four) to do something else.

Eventually you find it somewhere under a chair cold
(maybe this is just me;I don’t own a coffee table minimalist life bla bla bla).

Or when I brew coffee in my french press, I always have a little left over. Since I’m a bum, I’ll leave it there until after lunch, well this is a good way to consume it.

Prep time:  5 mins
Total time:
Serves: 1
  • 1/2 cup of black coffee
  • 1/2 cup of plant based milk
  • 1 tsp of cacao powder, no dutch process
  • 1 tsp of maca –
  • 1 tsp or more of agave, or sweetener of choice
  1. Combine Ingredients into your sealing portable coffee mug, and shake.
  2. Shake Shake Shake, – this makes it frothy without any fancy gadgets
  3. Pour into pretty cup of choice
  4. Drink
Note: Maca is considered a superfood that has been known to enhance memory, energy and mood. I would consider this a life hack for people who are trying to get things done aka exams, studying, juggling 3 kids and dinner, running a marathon etc. etc. This is certainly not for someone who is trying to #netflixandchill; for that I recommend a chamomile tea.
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Not the best pic, but this was delicious.

Millennial Workflow for Potty Training

2/3 kids officially potty trained! Time to put that one up on the mommy board.  But whose keeping count anyways right?

I am. I am keeping count. I’m over changing diapers. I have years in this, and will be satisfied once I can put all this behind me. One left to go, one left to go….

So, each kid is different right. Adjust your strategy and targeted energy based on what cues your kid is putting out. I knew my kid was ready, when he started handing me a diaper to change him. Not all signs will be this apparent, but keep a look out.

Also know, each child learns at their own speed.

For example:

Child #1 picked up potty training fast, but often had night time accidents. As a matter of fact, he had one last night.

Child #2 has taken his time, but the few nights we forgot to put a pull up on, he surprisingly didn’t wet the bed.

See the following workflow below, as a guide for your sanity. Nothing more nothing less.

  1. Buy underwear, let them pick it out. Some parents even buy a book with a cute story about potty. I must not be one of those parents.
  2. Pick a long weekend in, and start from there. The new #netflixandchill papa.
  3. Choose your hardware: seat adapter, stand alone potty, (sometimes you waste money buying both because one doesn’t work ::sigh:: )
  4. Begin conversations about pee pee and poo poo. Easy way to do this,  demonstrate! I was spared from this step, Papa was able to provide visual reference for both boys.
  5. Shed the diaper. Some like underware, or some go bare-bottomed. Adjust according to your kid. Note, kids will pee on anything they feel on their bums. This is lie, but sometimes it feels that way.
  6. Offer bathroom breaks every hour. Some will say every 20 mins. Well I just don’t have time for that. Avoid what I did, by asking, “do you need to go to the bathroom?” Their response will always be “no”, and you will always believe them, just keep the mop close.
  7. Wait patiently- because you will be sitting on that floor waiting and they will smile and you will ask “did you go pee pee?“,  they will say, “yes!” like they did, but they lied. They didn’t do anything.
  8. When they finally do the duty, C-E-L-E-B-R-A-T-E. Some buy skittles and keep them in the bathroom. I give dark cacao. Sometimes this step works in reverse too. I once bribed Ezra to go to the bathroom for dark chocolate cacao, only for him to go sit on the potty and let out a tiny drop to get his prize. #genius
  9. Be patient, and repeat all the previous steps, because getting your kid to go once doesn’t mean his rhythm is established. For all you know that could of been an anomaly. But don’t lose hope!
  10. Hygiene, teach them to finish with washing hands. Luckily the potty we bought, doubles as a stool, freaken beautiful and worth every penny. My kids sing their abc’s/twinkle twinkle little stars to measure time scrubbing.  It will be funny seeing how they handle the correlation as adults later in life.
  11. Test. Some parents like to test the efficacy of their training and leave the house for an hour or two.  Over achievers, good luck with that!

Overall, potty training can be emotional. How your child responds to the training will depend on your patience and reactions. Ok that’s a lie, some kids are just not going to go when you want them to go.  Forget what Freud said, If you shame them a little sometimes that works too. Get your kids use to your personality now, but all jokes aside do your best to harbor an environment that they thrive in!

Disclaimer: I’m not a professional. This is for fun. I have however had to sit my buttocks on the cold tile floor for hours waiting for little bums to make music. If you are needing further research, research.

Berry Vegan Whole Wheat Cakes

These lovely ladies are my desperate attempts at squeezing out the last drops of sunshine this summer. The days are becoming cloudier and summer seems to be fading faster than my tan.

Ok, so let me pause my pleas for an endless summer.  What is stoneground whole wheat? That which is usually reserved for bread, makes it’s mark here with these lovely amigas.

Check this out.

Berry Vegan Whole Wheat Cakes
Prep time:  
Total time:  105 mins
Serves: 6

Dry bowl

  • 1 cup of whole wheat flour
  • 1/2 tsp salt
  • 1 tsp of baking powder
  • Buco (a lot) cinnamon( I eyed it, you do you)


  • 2 flax eggs
  • 1 tsp of vanilla ( the real stuff from madagascar, don’t cheat)
  • 1 stick of butter softened (I used smart butter) equivalent to half cup
  • 1/2 c of sugar (was out of coconut, no date, so turbinada it was don’t judge me)
  • Lemon zest ( you decide how zesty you are)
  • 10 -20 blueberries, 5 strawberries ( find your berry)
  1. Preheat oven to 350, and grease your pans and flour them. Usually I use parchment paper but that wasn’t going to work this time with these.
  2. Make 2 flax eggs, ground flax/ water 1:2 ratio in a coffee cup. I’m lazy I don’t like to wash a lot
  3. In a large bowl, combine all ingredients for the dry bowl. I sift.  Sift if you sift girl.
  4. In a different bowl cream your sugar, and softened butter and vanilla. I forgot this step and did everything in one bowl with my hands. It turned out amazing. But the professionals say you should use a separate bowl to cream butter and sugar. Follow them.
  5. Add the flax egg and lemon zest, then combine dry ingredients with wet.
  6. Fill up your pans or pan. In this case I lined the bottom of my mold with berries first, filled it up full then shoved berries into it. I never incorporated the berries into the batter. Sometimes they drop, but with this recipe they stayed put.
  7. Bake for 40 mins on 350. I checked them every 20 mins. Bathe in the cinnamon vanilla aroma that becomes your house, and know Bath & Body Works got nothing on this.
This is a vegan recipe, You can substitute out the whole wheat for white, and the flax for eggs, but I’d advise against it. Most people aren’t even accustomed to the flavor of whole wheat and could consider it strong. In “typical baking”,  flour is usually in the background, while sugars and fats take center stage. In this recipe the stoneground whole wheat is the catalyst for the deliciousness that you taste. Get use to it, it’s here to stay ya’ll.
I’m a sucker for this earthy wholesome flour and inside I secretly blush because it’s actually good for me.



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